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pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
5/18/2021 5:07 pm

You would think it's not too much to ask, but we both know that it's going to happen. As your friend said, your blog, your rules, your choices. People can have discussions and even disagree, but when they cross a line that makes you uncomfortable, delete their comment. Block them if you feel it's warranted.
Do what you have to do to keep your happy space HAPPY!

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
5/18/2021 5:25 pm

No it's not ok to force their opinion or make disparaging remarks because of not liking what the blog is about. Give their opinion yes. It's your blog. You can run it how you want. Was banned from one person's blog. It was about a certain person having about 5 or 6 blogs in a row. I said something like just past them by. I didn't get what the problem is. Not a hard thing to do to just scroll by them. No cursing by me. No name calling. His blog so his business if can't take me not agreeing with him.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
5/18/2021 5:29 pm

'Battlefield' is an apt description of what happens here occasionally. Or perhaps the word is — skirmish?
Most bloggers have their own set of standards.

Your space, your rules. ❗😎👍


Mdonson57 62M
504 posts
5/18/2021 5:35 pm

No need apologize. You can’t control what someone will say.

MDonson
Kiik Myonguy


hardguy0051 72M
503 posts
5/18/2021 6:03 pm

Back in the day when I was on FidoNet, it had two rules:

Be ye not excessively annoying,

Be ye not excessively annoyed.

It's your blog and you can do whatever you please. If you begin a discussion, don't be upset if not everyone agrees with you. Having said that, you don't need to tolerate excessively annoying people.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
5/18/2021 6:12 pm

Is it Okay for a commenter try and force their opinion/way of life/approach problems/etc... on the blogger?
They can and have and possibly will TRY - if the blogger allows them to.

Is it Okay for a commenter feel free make disparaging remarks about the blogger?
Sure if the blogger wants to be disparaged. Personally I don't recommend that route.

This here place is like a lot of places on the inter/web/nets, with the possible exception of people being naked. All kind of weird shit is gonna come up some real some WTF? Gird yer lions for that

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


DodgeNBullets65 61M  
10 posts
5/18/2021 6:37 pm

If you Post it/ Blog it, they will come.

What you do with that is as Much up to You as the Blog you posted. Some will agree, others will not.

Do NOT tolerate aggression or abuse..... Ban and Block are Our friends.

My nickles worth.

D


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
5/18/2021 7:34 pm

ohhhhhh @ the Prof...( sigh ). Ugh ! Yep ..this is YOUR space, like as you said...inviting us into your living room. Those that behave as children....sent home and not invited again. We ve had a few of his ilk...and i wonder if they have just changed names and shown up again.
Bloggin and commenting ethics are the rule for some....and just like in real life...others ignore the rules...or have no manners.

His mannerless arrogance is showing~~


DiscreetQuirky 55M  
280 posts
5/18/2021 7:48 pm

Block them if you want. It's your blog. But if they're jerks that will also be obvious to other readers.


gardenboy321 60M  
41936 posts
5/18/2021 10:09 pm

Don't forget YOU ARE THE LAW IN YOUR BLOG.

Yeah... I'm pretty much the judge, jury, and executioner on my blog.

Thoughts from the Garden...


MyBaffies 54M
4983 posts
5/19/2021 12:55 am

Absolutely, it is your blog so you can choose your subjects. You can even decide whether you want people to respond or not.

But making it public means you're going to attract all sorts of replies - ones that match your viewpoint exactly, others that while you might not agree with you can see from their point of view, and some that are borderline offensive/ignorant/upsetting.

How you deal with them is the important bit. I don't always agree with the sentiments posted on my blog but I can usually understand their point of view and will allow them to return to express their opinions. But once they start getting offensive, belligerent, obtuse just for the sake of it, then it is time to block them.

Baffies

Link to my blog: MyBaffies


forgotforgetting 57M
8134 posts
5/19/2021 12:50 pm

Civility is a dying virtue. It is not ok to be spiteful or obnoxious. Sadly, the overall climate and mood in the United States is the opposite of what we all should have learned in kindergarden. All power to you! Take charge of your space!

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde


kzoopair 72M/71F
25831 posts
5/29/2021 1:20 pm

When I first began blogging I consciously tried to avoid quarrels but I got a lot less tolerant of troublemakers- and fools. The blog is YOUR space. You aren't obligated to provide a platform for dickheads and bigots. The internet is awash with people who pretend that any wacked out bullshit that enters their heads is a valid point of view just because it's theirs. Nuke 'em.

Become a member now and get a free tote bag.


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
6/1/2021 11:04 am

This is your blog and you have the right to say what ever it is you want. Now for the disparaging comments that people leave. I have always lived by the motto of "If You Don't Have Anything Nice To Say Then Don't Say Anything At All!"

As a long time blogger of the site, it really irks me when I get mean and nasty comments, but I take a higher road when I respond to comments as everyone has an opinion.

And I agree blogs should NOT become Battlefields!!!

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


luv2suk1966 63M/57F
1927 posts
6/14/2021 10:07 am

I get some negative comments once in a while on my blog, too. I either delete the comments, or just ignore them. I like being positive (sure, some days I get a bug up my ass), but just like FB, if you don't like what's written, you can KEEP SCROLLING. It's a beautiful thing!

Have a great day, and be nice to one another.


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
6/15/2021 11:14 am

You've gotten a lot of good advice already.

Re, disparaging comments, I've been lucky to not get very many of those. When they do happen, I usually either ignore them or say something bland like "we'll have to agree to disagree".

Where I draw the line is if someone starts to get argumentative and insulting with other readers of my blog who have left comments. If that kind of behavior escalates (or if they're constantly stopping by to insult me) - I'm fine with blocking them.


missthee 58F  
4511 posts
8/21/2021 1:01 am

Fortunately I've had close to zero drama on my own blog. I only recall deleting one comment. But what I do is pre-emptively block profiles before they even get to view my blog.


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